Today has been a lucky day.
After many months of in and out of slight depression and beating myself
up as an aftershock at thirty nine years old being told I would never be a
mother, I saw myself differently. I was
at home this Saturday by myself and in the midst of redecorating our mantel,
which has looked the same since the Christmas decorations were taken down the
year before last, and listening to an old country radio station out of
Springfield I had found on the AM stations when I heard someone coming up the
front steps of our house. I was in the
living room already and I turned and flung open the door thinking it was Shaun
and that maybe I had been too preoccupied to hear his truck drive up. I had a true and large refreshing smile on my
face as I had been surprised that he was home early. When the door opened I saw a boy about twelve
years old, and his mother was walking up the yard, turning out to be our
neighbors from across the street and down a couple of houses. They came wanting to buy some top soil from
our pile behind the trailer at the front of our property. I was still happy to see them and by this
point slightly laughing at myself for suspecting it was Shaun and hadn’t looked
first nor had I let the guest even knock therefore surprising him as well. She wanted to leave her number for the dirt
and I turned in the door way to grab a pen and paper. As I did I imagined what I looked like at
that point to my guests. My scarf
wisping around behind me as I turned, and music playing in the background and I
apologized for the mess on the floor, as if following the artist interrupted
from a sculpture and I thought… this is who I am. I am this woman, this thirty nine year old
woman. I am proud of her. She is interesting, not a cliché. She is artistic. She can be whoever she wants to be and not
what she ever expected she would be.
Nothing like I ever imagined my life would become but better. She reminds me, at this moment, of the
character Ariel in the movie Grumpy Old Men.
She talks to her plants, is artistic, crafty, classy and has a taste of
her own and never disappointed in the hand that has been dealt her. I have grieved for the life I know I will not
have but for once I am excited about the woman I have the opportunity to
be. I don’t have to hold back or dream
or prepare to “be” anymore. I am
her. It is all here I just have to grow
in to it. Fuck being sad and disappointed.
Do you really know who you are? Not just who you are married to or whose
mother or sister you are. Do you know
you? Do you know who you are to others
and what kind of person they think you are?
It is beautiful and for once a wonderful thing to realize and how
quickly it came in when I opened the door in my long jeans, green boots, black
long-sleeved tee and black and white wispy scarf draped down my back with my
hair straightened and pulled back out of my face. I saw what I looked like to myself through
their eyes and I saw me, in my world.
Today I was lucky, I saw who I am and through my disappointments to who
I will be, an Ariel, and I like her. I
am the one who needs to understand this, to know who I am, to inspire myself
who needs to be happy and comfortable in this spotted skin that I live in.
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